Finding Out CHILD’S HIDDEN TALENT
“With ordinary talent and EXTRAORDINARY PERSEVERANCE, all things are attainable.”
– Thomas Foxwell Buxton
We believe that talent is born and/or developed. According to dictionaries on the web, it defines talent as “a NATURAL aptitude or skill”. Talent is a natural ability, capacity, skills or potential that a person already have since birth. It depends on the person on how he/she can grow and cultivate them. Talent is what comes easy to a person while others struggle at it or can’t even do it. Talent is where a person excels and enjoyed the most while doing it. Most natural abilities people possess are easily discovered during childhood.
Although each child is endowed with individual skills, they need someone who will help them find out their hidden talent. As a parent, you will be your child’s first mentor and coach. No parent will have to go through costly laboratory or scientific tests to determine their child’s talent. What you just need to is very simple: let your child find out his/her passion naturally. Exposing them to a nurturing environment is the key.
From the sources from Education.com and RFD-TV Rural Media Group, which gives the 6 secrets of unlocking your child’s talent, and how to find your child’s talent. Here are the guides that will help parents on discovering and flourish the talent/s of their children.
From Education.com, written by Danielle Wood, here are the six strategies.
Watch for tiny, powerful moments of ignition.
It’s not easy to practice deeply—it requires passion, motivation, persistence and the emotional fuel we call love. New research is showing us that when it comes to motivation, we are all born with the neurological equivalent of hair triggers. When a child’s identity becomes intertwined with a goal, the trigger fires, and a tsunami of unconscious motivational energy is released. Coyle points to a study done with a set of young musicians in which kids who foresaw themselves as adult musicians learned 400 percent faster than kids who did not. “It’s not genes that made these kids succeed; it’s the fuel contained inside a tiny idea: I want to be like them,” Coyle says.
Understand that all practice is not created equal—not by a long shot.
The talent hotbeds have long known a crucial fact that science is just discovering: Skill-acquisition skyrockets when we operate on the edge of our abilities, making errors and correcting them—a state called “deep practice.” The takeaway: Mistakes aren’t verdicts; they’re information we use to build fast, fluent skill circuits. Kids who are able to see errors as fuel for learning, rather than setbacks, are the ones who eventually become geniuses.
Recognize that slow practice is productive practice.
This technique is common to virtually every talent hotbed, from tennis to cello to math. The reason it works: When you go slow, you can sense and fix more errors, coaching yourself to build a better skill circuit. At Meadowmount, a classical-music school whose alumni include Yo-Yo Ma and Itzhak Perlman, the rule is, you should play slow enough that a passer-by can’t recognize the song. As one coach puts it, “It’s not how fast you do it. It’s how slow you can do it correctly.”
Praise effort, not natural ability.
When we praise a child’s intelligence, we’re telling her that status is the name of the game, and she reacts by taking fewer risks. When we praise effort, however, kids become more inclined to take risks, make mistakes and learn from them—the essence of deep practice and learning. It’s no coincidence that talent hotbeds use effort-based language. Some Russian tennis players don’t say they “play” tennis; the word is “borot’sya”—to struggle.
Copying is a neurological shortcut to skill. Vividly imagining yourself perfecting a skill is a great first step to actually doing it, whether you’re writing or dancing. Tim Gallwey, the author/tennis instructor, teaches beginner students to play a passable game in 20 minutes through mimicry—all without uttering a single word of instruction.
The kind of deep practice that grows skill circuits can only come from within the kid, not from the parent, no matter how well-meaning. As Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck puts it, all parental advice can be distilled into two essential points:
1) Pay attention to what your child stares at.
2) Praise them for their effort.
In other words, notice when they fall in love, and help them to use the energy of that love wisely. When you start thinking about talent as a process—when you see the power of certain forms of practice, when you look for inner passion, when you tune into the teaching signals you can send—life changes, Coyle says. Like most big changes, it shows itself in small ways. “For our family, it’s when our son has a tough new song on the piano, and my wife encourages him to try just the first bar, or just the first five notes over and over, doing it in baby steps until it starts to click. Or when our daughters are skiing, and they excitedly inform us that they fell a bunch of times, which must be a sign that they are getting better,” Coyle says. (A concept that works better with skiing than it will with learning to drive a car).
Teaching kids that talent is built, not born, allows them to look at failure in a completely new way. Failure is not a verdict—it’s a path forward. And mistakes are not something to be embarrassed about. They’re steps on the path to success. Without them, greatness is not possible.
And according to the RFD-TV Rural Media Group, written by Gail Belsky, here are the ways of finding out the talents of your child.
Watch him play.
Does your kid naturally gravitate toward group activities or solo projects? Does he prefer running around or sitting quietly? Which would he go to first: a drawing pad, an iPod or a scooter? Seeing what your child chooses for himself will give you a good idea of where his talents lie.
Give him real choices.
It’s understandable: you want your child to appreciate music, so you sign him up for piano lessons. But is that really where his interest and ability lies? What if he’d be more engaged — and happier — strumming, drumming or singing? Or just listening, for that matter? “Kids are going to be who they are, despite who you want to make them,” says Fox. The key is to let your kid explore different angles of an activity and to watch for what really grabs his attention. If you think your child will like them, start with piano lessons but tell him that if he doesn’t enjoy playing after six months, he can move on to another instrument. Or something else altogether.
Validate his interests.
You may think that playing video games is a waste of time, but if your child is into graphics, animation, storytelling or problem solving, it may be boosting his innate talents. Parents often lump activities into big categories, but by doing so they may miss the details, says Fox. Instead of criticizing your child’s skills, validate them by saying, “Wow, I noticed you like playing games — and you’re really good at it!” Telling him it’s a waste of time may only squelch his desire to pursue his interests.
If your child comes home from school, whips out his notebook and starts writing a short story just for fun, you might be thrilled. But what if she sits down to draw cartoons? Or write riddles? What if she spends an hour creating crossword puzzles? Encourage her all the more! Loving to write and writing what you love go hand in hand. And the minute your child feels censored or limited, she might stop expressing herself creatively.
Forget about you.
Whether your child loves or hates the activity you want him to do, it’s not a reflection on you. In fact, it’s not about you at all. Remember to put aside your own interests, prejudices and preconceptions. If you’re disappointed by your child’s lack of interest in an activity, Fox recommends asking yourself, “What would happen to my child’s life if he didn’t take music lessons? Or if he quit them to pursue acting instead?” Chances are, the consequences aren’t worth your worry.
“It’s all about being able to have a choice,” says Fox. And given the freedom and encouragement, she adds, “kids will make good choices.”